where do I fit in?

I feel like I am at that awkward stage of my life where I don’t really fit in to a “category”. Do you know what I mean?

I am not YOUNG young and out with all the fresh college kids

I am not OLD either though

I am not married

I do not have kids

I am not out doing the clubbing thing

pretty much all my friends are either married or have kids or both!
{although my friends are AMAZING at being there for me or getting away for a girls night! thank you so much ladies – LOVE YOU}

where do I fit in this new stage of my life? what category am I in?

is there a special group for “single after two marriages“?

is there a “I have low self esteem but come off confident” group?

is there a I want to get out of my house but I don’t want to really GO OUT group?

I miss cooking dinner at nights, I miss the sound of giggles in my home from kids, I miss another body in my bed, I miss the family life……

I am trying to stay positive and look at the bright side….but sometimes i really just suck at it!

Where do I even begin this new phase of life?

{pants- C/O Head over heels, Shoes – target, Shirt – tank – and necklace – nordstrom, sunglasses – steve madden via TJ Maxx}


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  1. 1

    Keep your head up! Not everyone fits into a category. We all have different paths in life, that’s what makes everyone unique.

  2. 2

    I have recently fallen into a new category. Empty Nester. It is a category I don’t like being in and am really struggling with so I can somewhat understand and appreciate where you are at. I have gone from a life I loved, caring for my 4 children for the past 28 years on a daily basis to a life where no one really needs me on a daily basis. Although I have plenty of “projects” and work to do it is not nearly as fulfilling as my work of being a mother. Trying to figure it all out and finding a new sense of normal and trying to learn to love and embrace my new category in life.
    Hang in there – we’ll figure it out!!!

  3. 3

    I’m in a category that I don’t like either. I’m a SAHM for twin toddlers.
    You see, before moving to USA I had a career, I was doing cancer research in Buenos Aires, Argentina (where I am from). I got pregnant with the twins and after they were born, my scholarship ended. When I was about to find a PhD, my (now) husband told me he got a job offer in USA and we came here. I went from living in a BIG city to being locked inside the house, in the middle of nowhere, and can’t really leave because I don’t have my own car. I do plan on going back to work as soon as my work permit is done.
    I’m 30, so I’m not that young or that old for that matter…

    Hang in there!

  4. 4

    I’m 34 and single and feel your pain. ALL of my friends are married, most with several kids. I don’t fit in with 22 year olds and I don’t fit in with 35 year olds who are married. I’m in this weird place- a limbo.


  5. 5

    You know, even though I am married and have kids.. and may seem like “everyone else” I still sometimes feel like you do. Wondering where I belong or fit in. I dont have many of my own friends and I am still pretty young, with the life of someone older. I was married at 20 also, had my first child at age 19. Im 28 with 3 kids! I am not into clubbing, but I would like to actually be able to go out and do more stuff with other adults. My husband is a war veteran so he doesnt like being in public, so we stay home a lot.
    Some days its hard thinking of where I belong, because I sometimes feel like there arent others who share my same interests… except for in the blogging world. Which is one of the main reasons I love blogging and having blogger friends… Even though we cant hang in real life, at least I feel connected to people and a “category” that gets me!
    Hang in there girl. You are awesome and I can tell, very strong.God will bring you through this time. ♥

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    I know what you mean, I have been going through this phase for a while now. The only thing I can say is to keep busy, take up a hobby, and try new things. Sometimes you find someone or some sort of happiness in a place you never imagined. Between that and having faith in the fact that my life would change for the better and I would allow myself to let love into my life… Somehow I am a happier person. Life is what we make it right?… Time to create that place for you to fit in :) … Good luck and stay positive. You are beautiful and fun, life will turn out wonderfully for you.

    THe loner life sucks. But I truly believe in the saying that thought it may not be for your life right now… its doesn’t mean it isn’t meant to be.

  7. 7

    Regardless of your phase, I think you look adorable and are rockin’ that outfit!!

  8. 8

    I totally feel ya with this post! I too am in that same awkward in-between stage of life. 29 yrs old, unmarried, no kids.
    You will get thru this, and hey, you have cute outfits, and look great!

  9. 9

    I am SORRY Brittany! I relate to the is there a “I have low self esteem but come off confident” group? and “is there a I want to get out of my house but I don’t want to really GO OUT group? It’s hard when you aren’t “feeling it” yet, you HAVE to go on with life. Hang in there! You’re group is “you are just doing what you are doing and that’s okay”!!

  10. 10

    Is there a you are gorgeous and such a good sweet kind person that things really work out for you, I just know it…stage of life? I sure think so. :)

    Cute as always. :)

  11. 11

    Ugh, that’s a rough place to be in! At least you have your girlfriends and hopefully you can spend time on your own til you know what and who is right for you!

    I found your blog in the most random way ever. Ready? A reader of my blog saw a pic of my brother and wanted to set him up with her daughter (still following?). It didn’t work out, but she (the reader, Vicky) also reads your blog and wanted to set you up with my brother! Totally crazy, but in case you are in the market for a California, softball loving, hunting, god-parent to all his high school friends’ kids, kind of guy, here’s the link to my post where he is holding my baby:)


    Anyway, love your blog regardless, so happy I found it.


  12. 12

    you are beautiful sweet girl. on your own unique path that is just for you. embrace it all, even the unknown.

  13. 13

    something new is waiting for you just around the corner, I just know it! you are who you are and there is no need to fit into any kind of category. it’s funny because even though i am married and a mom I still don’t want to end up in “that” category either. there are so many different facets that make up who we are :) xoxo

  14. 14

    I love you! And this post makes me miss u so dang much. I just want to be able to see you every day and tell you how important and inspiring you are to so many people, me included. I want to hug you and stay up late chatting with you and craft with you and have u over for dinner so my boys can wrestle with you. You might not have gown birth yet, but you are a mother to so many children out there! You have a gift with kids and you’re an amazing friend. Oh and you’re freakin drop dead gorgeous!

  15. 15

    Brittany, I love you so much! I wish we lived closer so that we could hang out all the time. In a way, I know what your feeling. Even though I am married and have 4 kids, there are many times that I feel like I don’t always fit into a category and it’s hard to know exactly where I fit in. I hope that you just know that you are an inspiration to so many! I have always admired you, and have yet to find someone who is more giving and selfless then you. Your amazing!

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