I had some of my family in town this last week…..I LOVED IT!
{my mom, lil sister Caily, lil brother Dylan, me}
we were SO busy…from water parks, to go kart racing, to sushi dinners, to horse rides….
But the problem is…it’s BITTER SWEET.
SWEET cause I loved having them here…
I loved the one on one time with my mom
I loved loving on my brothers girlfriends baby Gabriella
I loved having my lil sister to hug and kiss
My lil brother Dylan and Sydney to make me laugh and smile
I loved not being alone
I loved the late night giggles
BITTER because they left :(
I am alone now and the house is quite!
I am more baby hungry than ever
I realize just how much I miss and need my family…
Life is a funny thing….so much good can happen yet one bad can over power that good…I try to hold on to the good and not let the bad in…but honestly sometimes I just fail! today was one of those days! EVERYTHING upset me…little or big…it felt like the weight of the world was on my shoulders and all I wanted was my mom back in town with me!I cried and cried…. I felt lonely and sad and depressed….no matter how much I tried to be positive the bad out weighted the good
sometimes I wonder if there is something wrong with me…if I LET the bad over power the good…and if so…WHY can’t I try to see life as HALF FULL rather than HALF empty. I usually am such a happy positive person…this new “phase” sucks!
what are some tips you have to staying positive through hard times?
I could use all the advice I can get….
Sometimes we just need to fully experience the bad times, let ourselves FEEL. Give yourself permission to feel the bad. Then you can move on to find the good. Gratitude journals or just try a couple of times a day to find one thing positive to hold on to. The warm sun, green grass, it’s a good hair day. Try and see the lesson in the bad, that you can use later to appreciate the good. Yes, I have a kidney disease, but I’ve been stable for 10 years. Even when the numbers start to drop, there is happiness in the peace of a shady tree, or my dog beside me. You are in our prayers.
Girl this is so hard, and I am terrible at it. I think by focusing on what makes you happy…weather it be family, working out, blogging, etc. Try and stay busy! The worst is when you are alone. Nights out with girlfriends help SO SO much. Laughter! :) Thinking of you! This to will pass xoxo
Even the most positive people have bad days… or weeks even. They key is to having more good days then bad. Thinking of you and sending happy thoughts!!!
Girl-trust me, I have been there. I think that as women, we tend to take on everything as a personal part of us, and when things don’t go the way we want/plan/expect/hope, it’s devastating. My biggest advice-let yourself feel. It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to be upset, and it’s okay to be angry, or feel however you’re feeling. Give yourself time to mourn the loss of a dream or whatever it may be, then make a plan. Work on your plan. Feel with every step of the way! My favorite Bible verse has always helped me with each step of the way… “I can do all things through Him who give me strength”. ALL Things! You can do it!
Hey Girl!!! everything you feel is OK! the good, the bad and the ugly but give yourself some time to feel all the emotions but keep pressing on. I was a single mom for 15 years and this one bible verse stuck with me so often and especially during the times I needed help seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. God is building you and molding you for His great plan….Psalms 126:6 He who goes out weeping, carrying seed to sow, will return with songs of joy, carrying sheaves with him.
Allow your “in person” friends and your “internet” friends to continue to support you and love you :0)
My house & was hit by lightning 4 years ago (the boys & i were home), tornado came through our neighborhood 2 years ago(my hubs & boys were home), a hail storm (golf ball size) came through 2 weeks ago (we were on vacation).
Through all those storms, we praised Him! Yeah it sucked that we had so much in damage for the lighting storm & had to make an insurance claim. Everything that was low voltage was fried. But the boys & I got out of the house & to the garage. A neighbor saw it & ran over, called 911. Even though there was so much damage, we were ok.
We didn’t have any damage in the tornado but MANY houses in our neighborhood did.
We came home at the end of our vacation on Sunday to find that our basement was wet, nothing damaged or lost, just the carpet & padding. But it looks like we just moved in down there. Everything piled in a corner. Including my lil’ alice studio. The siding is damaged, roof has golf ball size dents, a/c units damaged, gazebo damaged. Waiting on insurance sucks. But through it all, we are safe & all the damage can be fixed at no cost to us thanks to insurance.
When times get tough and the construction guys are not fast enough, we remind ourselves that we are okay & nothing important was lost or damaged. All the other stuff can get fixed.
The Bible says, He will never leave us nor forsake us. He won’t leave you. Often times it’s us leaving Him. I know it’s often my instinct, cuz I’m a control freak, to fix a problem. And my last resort is to call on Him. I don’t do this on purpose, but now that I see a pattern, I have learned to call on Him right away.
Praying for you sweet friend.
Katy